My father has Alzheimer's disease; he is living in a care home only 1 mile from where I live. Nevertheless, I have not been able to see him since March. He has an unusual form of dementia, where he has lost both short and long term memory. He lives for the day, the moment, and never remembers anything else. He is also very tactile, whenever, my mother or I went to see him, he would love a hug and want to hold our hand. It was as if he might not remember who we are but something inside him, felt who we are. Every time we left him in the home, my mother would become so upset, she feels guilty that at 74 with back issues, she is unable to look after him. I try to tell her he is in the best place. I try to be pragmatic and say he seems happy, because of living in the moment. Telling her this did help, until Covid-19, changed the world. Since then, we have not been able to see him.
The care home gave us a decision in the summer, we could see him, but through a glass window, without letting him touch us in any way. He is not capable of remembering as it is now an automatic action to try and hug my mother. My father had the virus through the summer; he was fine apart from a lump on his leg. They said, and please remember my father is in a good care home with an excellent reputation, that seeing my father through glass would cause emotional issues for both my parents and that it may confuse him and upset his daily schedule. My mother reluctantly agreed to this, as she has diabetes and part of the high-risk group.
Until you have to experience a family member with Alzheimer's disease, you cannot understand how it affects the whole family. It tears me apart, slowly seeing my dad lose his mind, losing day by day, a small part of his consciousness, the part that is him. He is unable to speak now and can only make hand signals and smile. I like to think he is happy inside, living the moment by moment experience, but who knows as he cannot tell me.
This thought torments me.
How long will it be before my mother can see her husband again?
My mother worries that either of them may die without seeing each other.
Even though the world pretends to know about Covid-19, I do not think they do. Governments and scientists act as if they are in control of the situation; however, the evidence does not show this. It seems like they are trying to put the tail on a donkey while blindfolded, and the donkey will not keep still.
The world cannot continue like this. Humanity is already falling apart, and it makes no sense why governments continue their idiotic strategies. The only reason that makes sense is they have no clue how to stop it, or what it is or what causes the various reactions to it. My uncle also in a care home, my mother's brother, he had Covid-19 around the same time as my father. My uncle had recently recovered from cancer and pneumonia and yet only had a very mild case. He was feeling tired for a week, and that is it. How do both my father and my uncle survive with comorbidities? My uncle still had cancer last November, and he had pneumonia in early 2020.
Just because the governments and scientists cannot figure out what is causing some unfortunate soles to die should not destroy the lives of everyone else. We do not stop the world every winter for flu or any of the other deadly diseases that cause massive death in humans.
The world now knows lockdowns do not work, so why continue? It is destroying small businesses, retail stores, bars, clubs, pubs, restaurants and social activity.
If this continues for much longer, it will change the world forever, if it has not done this already.
One last thing to add, how many cases of the flu, using covid style testing of everyone, do you think we would find?
We have never tested flu, yet it kills hundreds of thousands every winter.
The similarities and differences are something to ponder.
