I decided long ago I wanted to change my life; the problem was at the time I did not know what I wanted to change it to. I now feel I am capable of making those decisions at least the one about what I want to do. I want to change it for the better. Ah that is a naff reason you may say. Well it is until you look at the alternatives, if you are specific about what you want to change to, then you are more likely to be disappointed. Similarly, if you are generalistic about a subject without having an emotional outcome then you are selling yourself short. Emotional return seems to be the best solution to changing one’s life. Yet you could say that emotions are fleeting, and ever changing in themselves, especially my emotions, so you cannot be specific about the goal or the emotion you want to achieve or change or gain, from setting that life changing goal.
The only thing left is to look at the problem as a challenge, and the vision behind the challenge is to improve yourself in whatever way you find applicable at the time. If you are too specific; you may get bogged down, especially if you realise the goal you thought you wanted. You felt it was the best thing ever, when deciding to change whatever part of your life you wanted to change. Suddenly becomes less important for whatever reason, then you are stuck in a quandary, do you change and let your subconscious believe you are a quitter, and this idea of quitting can quickly grow into something far worse. Or do you stick at it through hell or high water, and eventually resent the decision and wish you had not been so determined or stubborn.
There are many examples of this happening, but I am not going to mention them, so after waffling a while and learning the hard way, by being placed in the various dilemmas and situations outlined above. I now know the only way to go, is to want to better yourself and your chosen life changing feat or goal, whatever the feat or goal maybe, and if it changes, as it probably will, it does not detract from the feat or goal itself, which is and always will be; to change one’s life for the better.